Jennifer Lopez has admitted what we all knew all along – that she can’t handle being alone.
The 44-year-old diva then justifies saying this by saying she needs props for being honest about the fact that she’s only with Casper Smart because it’s marginally better than spending her evenings with a meal for one and a television set for company:
“I’m one of those people who does not like to be alone,” JLo says.
“I have no shame saying that at this point in my life. I think we have to own who we are. … [As for marriage,] don’t know, I don’t know, we’ll see.
“I always believed in that institution. My parents were married for a very long time, for 35 years.
“I believe in it. It’s difficult. I’ve had my challenges but at the same time I believe in love. That’s the main thing.”
This makes me feel sad for her. We all know those women (and men) who are terrified of being on their own and so will jump into a relationship with someone who’s not that great and stay with them rather than sit at home alone.
Like JLo, they were raised on fairytales and are in love with the idea of love and believe that one day that one special person will come along and sweep them off their feet and everything will be alright.
But when this dream lover doesn’t come along (because they’re always in relationships and their expectations are unrealistic anyway) they play pretend with whoever’s there.
Personally, I’ve always looked down on this.
Being single is far better than being in a relationship that’s wrong for you. Far too many people who are married or in longterm relationships are miserable but pretend to everyone – including themselves – that things are fine because they’re terrified of going it alone.
I don’t get it. Being single is fabulous.
JLo needs to become her own Knight in shining armour and learn to love and support herself and be her own best friend. She doesn’t need a boyfriend she needs some self-belief and some hobbies.
It’s not scary, it’s liberating and far more honest than forcing a smile and pretending that Casper Smart’s her everything when we can all see he’s not.
Life’s too short to pretend.